tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post1438387601752484922..comments2017-11-13T17:05:39.455+00:00Comments on Addiction Recession?: How am I coping?tim1leghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17060688293127101645noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-79128197116560939132012-04-19T18:46:45.145+01:002012-04-19T18:46:45.145+01:00Your welcome Mama xxxx keep the faith xYour welcome Mama xxxx keep the faith xtim1leghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17060688293127101645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-11333185293093033582012-04-19T18:37:34.167+01:002012-04-19T18:37:34.167+01:00I know it is nearly a year later, but this writing...I know it is nearly a year later, but this writing about the 4th and 5th really caught my attention. Thank you sister trudgerMama Westrayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13946601641063149599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-17788943163014675422011-06-08T23:37:48.567+01:002011-06-08T23:37:48.567+01:00Thanks Fish grateful to be of service xThanks Fish grateful to be of service xtim1leghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17060688293127101645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-86807970784797153042011-06-08T16:45:57.821+01:002011-06-08T16:45:57.821+01:00I'm in one of those priceless moments we spiri...I'm in one of those priceless moments we spiritual fellows see as growth right now. Yet to the layman "I'm in a whole heap of pain trying to cope the best I can". I think it's incredible that we can turn that victim mentality around to see how our defects can be our guiding light to growth. If I was living the current situation I find myself in only 3 years ago; I'd of wholeheartedly agreed with the rest of Joe Public in defining it as drastic and that my feelings of pain and anger would rightly justify me taking 'head on' action into a can (or 2 or 3 or...) of Strongbow Super.<br /><br />What I have today though is precious; and although my "coping" skills do not always come very easily at times, some good solid spiritual advisers are only more than happy to light the path ahead for me till my own light burns again. Sometimes I just can't see the wood for the trees and this was one of those occasions because I was too close to it with my partner. I have (I'd like to put that as past tense really but that's not the way it is right now!) major resentments around her failing health, which I won't go into here. SO, thanks for the blog, it struck such a chord with me reading this today. Blessings be xxxxFISH Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12454466910198638266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-23560115488221038852011-06-08T14:35:34.006+01:002011-06-08T14:35:34.006+01:00Cheers eddie, maybe ! but maybe not I dont know. I...Cheers eddie, maybe ! but maybe not I dont know. I hope it does all come out in the wash SOON!tim1leghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17060688293127101645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-89126957469234595952011-06-08T14:05:58.435+01:002011-06-08T14:05:58.435+01:00Hello Annemarie, I have been watching and wonderin...Hello Annemarie, I have been watching and wondering for the last few months about all that important statement business and the UKRF2 as you have now become know in some circles.<br /><br />I couldn’t for the life of me figure out what the hell you were all up too. Now I have went between thinking oh !oh! no smoke without fire (thinking you and Alistair must have done something more than ask a simple question) to (it really appears as if you guys are being scape goated or abused!)<br /><br />But even then, if there were details omitted or untruths told I really couldn’t for the life of me see why the author would so blatantly attack both your characters, in this way leaving himself so open to the very things he accuses you both of! but I think I know why now.<br /><br />Now Im not the sharpest tool in the box and actually you may have though of this already, but my take on it is, that the point of the important statement and no doubt the (fall out) could purely be to discredit you both.<br /><br />Now what would be the point in that, its not as if you guys have any real power as individuals, infact Annemarie I know your main contribution to the site was to support others and you did that with patience and diligence over the years you were involved and Alistair your contribution as well as being supportive to individuals who were struggling was more exploratory and thoughtful around implications of policy practice etc. But to be fair neither of you were in any way a big cheese or a shining light, so why is it important to attack and discredit and you in this way! <br /><br /> Two words <br /><br />(THE WALK)<br /><br />They and others want it!<br /><br />It will be interesting to see the lengths they go to try and get it! <br /><br />Good luck!<br /><br /><br /><br />Eddie 365Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-23286848665083128882011-06-06T18:35:41.142+01:002011-06-06T18:35:41.142+01:00Thanks anon & B yep I'm sure there will be...Thanks anon & B yep I'm sure there will be fall out for quite some time but I'm also sure all is exactly as its meant to be, I know I cant control any of it. Thanks alot for your support too xtim1leghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17060688293127101645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-3326390980819637052011-06-06T18:22:27.442+01:002011-06-06T18:22:27.442+01:00Ahhh I notice you dont rationlise justify or defen...Ahhh I notice you dont rationlise justify or defend here, (or anywhere else for that matter).<br /><br />In my book, this very fact tells me that you have done nothing wrong despite what others say you did or what I have heard. <br />A big part of my own recovery has been to seek councel also and now that I am further along the road my own councel increasingly becomes more reliable, but i check it out anyway.<br /><br />I really feel for what you have been through this last few months and experienced something similar only last year, like you I remained true to myself and behaved in an honorouble manner which again served me well in building my self esteem and professional reputation despite others intentions. <br /><br />I am however occasionally still picking up some of the peices of last years "event", last week in a completly different country to where I work, a man i had never met said oh your the guy that said "blah blah blah" to which I replied,<br /><br />Oh thats interesting never heard that version before! <br /><br />Cut a long story short we shared a coffee and several things fell into place for this VIP? and the upshot is he and a few others could have saved themselves alot of work.<br /><br />It will all come out in the wash Ann Marie as I am sure you know.<br /><br />Good luck and god speed you in all that you do Ann Marie and keep on trudging.<br /> <br />BAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-36846060990379438682011-06-06T18:05:27.160+01:002011-06-06T18:05:27.160+01:00yes keep on trudging my friend.yes keep on trudging my friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-8522167829777923032011-06-06T18:04:44.516+01:002011-06-06T18:04:44.516+01:00Thank Louis, not easy this trudging malarkey but h...Thank Louis, not easy this trudging malarkey but hey, the alternative SUCKS! Thanks for your support! xtim1leghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17060688293127101645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214878645387972898.post-71091263302304373472011-06-06T17:49:02.331+01:002011-06-06T17:49:02.331+01:00I had to leave a comment here. What you wrote real...I had to leave a comment here. What you wrote really left something with me.<br /><br />I at first thought about those defects of character I found through step 4 & 5 as a bad thing... Now I see them as only good.<br /><br />You mention: Those who are lucky enough to get back to meetings always talk about similar themes ie how they were unconsciously seeking relief from this irritability, anxiety, remorse, depression by acting out in lots of different ways. Buying bigger and better stuff, having more of something, things like sex money power, etc and especially that they would be too busy taking everyone else’s inventory (step 4) to take their own, and they would end up accusing even their best friends and allies of the very character defects they themselves were trying to conceal. <br /><br />I so get this. The times I have wanted to use have always been times when I blamed people places and things for what was going on with me.<br />Now though... when I have feelings of wanting to use... those defects come and slap me in the face (just incase I try to ignore them :o))<br /><br />I see that it is nothing to do with around me... but to do with within me.<br />I am not saying this as though I need to beat myself up over it. What I need to do is get honest about what it is I need and accept it.<br /><br />I have done this more and more recently and those times of wanting to use have become less and also when I do have them... they no way near have the same sort of power over me as they used to.<br /><br />I have received such freedom from this programme and all it took was honesty, openmindedness and willingness.<br /><br />I wish you well Trudging<br /><br />louislouisnoreply@blogger.com